Falling in love is a very warm, bright feeling that many of us have experienced. When, when looking and communicating with an object of sympathy, the heart seems to be overwhelming with heat, and the soul as if wishes to break out of the body, like a bird, into flight, these are the most indescribable sensations. And, of course, the most pleasant and joyful. However, declaration of love is not easy for both girls and boys.
When is the best time to confess?
Talking about your feelings is sometimes difficult, because you never know how a person will react. Will he understand you correctly, will respect him and, most importantly, will he reciprocate. But for that we and people, we have been given the gift to speak in order to express ourselves and our thoughts.
Often people are afraid to be rejected and ridiculed, and this fear prevents them from declaring their love first. This is especially true for girls who have been vaccinated with certain standards since childhood. After all, in society it was always considered shameful and inappropriate to speak first about your feelings, since the guy should take the initiative in his own hands. But why such a prejudice? Feelings are feelings, and there is nothing shameful in them.
If you love a person, then he needs to make it clear. The time and moment for recognition should be appropriate, because the further development of your relationship also depends on these small nuances. Best to open your feelingswhen:
- The partner gives you signs of attention: he tries to talk with you more often, smiles gently, keeps eye contact. In this case, you can be sure that the person has sympathy for you. With reciprocity, the probability of creating a love relationship is high;
- The partner is not in a romantic relationship with another person. Personally, there is nothing wrong with your feelings, and you have the right to express them in order to lighten your burden and make it right for him (her) to understand you. However, you should not want and achieve more if your chosen one has someone. Your potential partner has already made a choice once, and not in your favor, accept and respect this decision. Do not destroy someone else's happiness and humiliate yourself. And if a person abandoned a partner for your sake, then this is an occasion to think about you. After all, if he is able to abandon relations for the sake of new ones, then this is very likely to happen to you.
If you have the courage, then you can test the soil before recognition. Start with a radiant, sweet smile. Then move on to hints that would rather look like a joke. You will let your partner think about you. With a warm answer and the same manner of communication, you can take the next step - recognition.
Having decided to declare your love, do not step back and do not be afraid. It remains only to pick up suitable time. However, with this, everything is much easier than attuning to the moment itself. Invite a person to walk or, if you are studying / working together, then take him aside and report your feelings.
But in what period of communication this is best done - there is no definite answer. It all depends on the willingness to comprehend such information, as well as how strong communication between you ensued. Some are recognized at first and their love grows into marriage, while others need several months or even years.
However, whenever you decide to open your feelings, do not tell your partner that you love him. Say: "I like you" or "I love you". The meaning will be clear, but you will not scare the partner with a harsh statement and recognition will not be burdened. For the manifestation of such a strong feeling as love, you need a fairly long time.
Declarations of Love
There are a lot of options for recognition in your warm feelings. The fantasy of people knows no bounds in the original approach to declare love. Amongways of declaration of love The most popular are the following:
- The easiest but surest way is to admit directly. Without embellishment, tell in detail what you feel for a person. This is responsible, bold and no frills.
- If you don’t have the courage to speak openly about your feelings, you can try to express them through attention. They can be different, for example, compliments. You can praise your partner, support, smile, tell him how wonderful he looks today.
- Another way of expressing love is with gifts. You can make gifts with your own hands. This may be a postcard or an object that will hint the guy about your feelings. Frequent gifts are various souvenirs in the form of angels and hearts.
- Since communication on the web has become fashionable today, you can send a suggestive song with a love theme. However, it would rather be a hint than a full recognition. In addition to this item, you will need to come up with something else.
- Many cannot express their feelings openly, therefore they express them on paper. Such a love confession will make it possible to convey on paper all your cherished thoughts and feelings that the partner will feel better, since you have enclosed a piece of soul in the message. Such a romantic letter can be left on the table, thrown into a briefcase or otherwise delivered to its addressee.
- Some declare their love with gentle touches and hugs. Sometimes a simple touch says a lot more than a word. A hug that lasts longer than a few seconds is a noticeable hint of sympathy.
- Another great opportunity to express your feelings is to show concern and attention. The kindness, tenderness and sympathy that you will show will tell your lover much more than simple words.
- A bolder method is to invite a person to take a walk. Moreover, the walk itself will be more like a date, where you, in the end, admit that you are in love with a suitable atmosphere.
You can also find out how to declare love in other countries and borrow from them an idea you like.
In Japan, on February 14, girls declare their love in love by making chocolate for the young men in love. If the girl does not know how to cook, then she gives the purchased chocolate bar or sweets.
The moments of recognition in such tremulous feelings remain in the memory for a long time. As they say: "Life is short, there is no time to leave important words unsaid." We must remember that each word has its own time and place, so if you have something to say, say it.
The most beautiful way to make a declaration of love is undoubtedly love prose and poems. If you are talented, you can write a poem that expresses your influx of feelings and emotions. Such a message will not leave your fan indifferent and he will be able to appreciate your skills.
If you are not good at poetry, then use verses from other authors: from simple classics to contemporary poetry. Remember that poetry and prose are an incredibly romantic way to express your love feelings. It is not for nothing that Pushkin’s Tatyana, having written a letter to Onegin, used phrases from the novels she had read.
However, never admit love by SMS or message on social networks. This does not look romantic, is not an indicator of courage, and the method itself speaks of your frivolity.
How to behave after recognition?
After a declaration of love, the answer always follows. It can be expressed in different ways, but basically three options happen: agreement, it takes time to think, refusal.
Whatever answer you receive to your feelings, the opinion of the partner must be considered and respected. Do not be intrusive and push emotionally. Relationships, even love, should not be annoying. Love is freedom and mutual understanding.
The most important thing after recognition is to behave as before. Life does not change dramatically, you do not cease to be yourself.
If you get consent, then that's fine. You are now a couple, but you and he should have their own interests. You, in the first place, are two separate personalities and so should remain in the future. Each of you has the right to do what you did, to communicate with people with whom you talked and do not need to stop this. Suppression of personality and prohibitions will worsen relationships.
If you received an indefinite answer or refusal, then do not worry about it much. You should not be ashamed, do not be shy. You expressed everything frankly, tried to change the course of events, and rightly so. If nothing is done, then nothing will change, and regrets about the imperfect will accumulate in life.
Love is a very strong and serious feeling that many confuse with falling in love. Remember that falling in love is a bright, passionate feeling, and love manifests itself over the years, when you both learned about each other's flaws, experienced not only happy and beautiful moments, but also sadness, resentment, quarrels, and coped with problems. A strong relationship is hard work that must not stop even if you have been married for more than ten years.
But falling in love, or as it is otherwise called a candy-bouquet period, is a great time. You experience the most tender, warm and inspiring feelings, which is good for you as a person. Do not be afraid to fall in love and do not be afraid to confess!
