At the so-called transitional age, when a teenager is “covered” with hormones, parents are afraid that their sweet child seems to have been replaced. Features of a difficult teenage stage should not be ignored to get the right result in personality development.
Features of the upbringing and development of adolescents
The process of forming a growing personality is associated with special factors that have weight for the formation of the child. Do not ignore modern problems of education youth and adolescents, which boil down to:
- problems with the perception of self-esteem (someone underestimates, and some turn up to heaven);
- emotional instability, manifested in short temper;
- isolation and lack of sociability at school;
- following the requirements and values of a group of close friends and peers;
- the use of alcohol and narcotic intoxicants.
The main difficulty is the reluctance of parents to recognize in their child the legal right to self-determination as an accomplished person.
How to educate a teenager correctly
The main special feature of the transitional age is the transition from a child's way of interaction to a conscious adult.
Moreover, the peculiarities of spiritual and moral education in adolescents become in an ambiguous position of confrontation with negative social manifestations of morality, corrupting the influence of the media with the propaganda of not always good and human values and attitudes, inattention to the manifestations of even minimal civic education, as well as the rapid growth and strengthening of the criminalization factor .
Based on the totality of these trends, special attention should be paid to the psychological aspects of education in the family and school.
Parenting a teenager boy - how to bring up tips
The transitional age becomes decisive in shaping the qualities of the future man, in order to simplify his life as much as possible, it is worth listening to the advice of teachers and practical psychologists regarding boys.
1. “Turn on” mutual understanding even in difficult situations, trying to accept the child as he is, encourage sincerity, be open to dialogue, avoiding excessive notations and tedious moralizing.
2. Ensure quality leisure that is most useful for physical fitness and health, so the risk of alcohol abuse, bad companies will be reduced and a responsible attitude to your health will be formed.
3. Do not limit independence, often put yourself in the shoes of your son.
4. Be an adviser, and do not try on the mask of an adult - always right and knowing the only right answer.
5. Do not engage in confrontation with his age values, do not make fun of them.
Parenting a girl
A growing girl in a difficult period can create a lot of problems for parents, but with correctly placed accents in the family direction of development, you can avoid a decent number of mistakes.
- Particular attention should be paid to the aesthetic and spiritual education of a teenage girl, which cannot be reduced to simply “driving in” and remembering simple truths.
- From the beginning of adolescence, parents need to devote time to the formation of hygiene and personal care skills in connection with the changing characteristics of the body.
- The right attitude to women's family responsibilities will help the future girl cope with the adoption of sexual roles.
- Awareness of issues of adult relationships, love and sex, complete trust will create a friendly atmosphere that can prevent unwanted consequences.
- It will not be superfluous to give her daughter the opportunity to read a good book aimed at educating teenagers about growing up.
The periods of adolescence and their features
Speaking about the age stages of this stage, it is customary to subdivide periods:
- early;
- average;
- late.
On first of those mentioned, the upbringing of a teenager should highlight issues related to changes in the growing body (these are sometimes the first menstruation in girls sometimes starting at age 12, pollutions and erections in boys). A child crosses the border of childhood and may not show the best features of an emerging character.
AT average During the period of upbringing, it is better to concentrate the upbringing of the teenager around the emotional sphere, since it is she who undergoes a series of strong transformations at the age of 14-15.
AT late during adolescence, the child is faced with an acute need for professional future self-determination, which is why career guidance measures are important at the age of 16-17.
How to talk with teens parents tips
To find a common language with a growing teenager, you do not need to run to get a pedagogical diploma and shovel mountains of books in search of wise advice in literature.
Follow simple tips and you will understand that the main principle of good upbringing is proper communication with your child.
- Avoid lengthy educational “lectures” on a sore subject.
- Replace accusations with expressions of your emotions and feelings.
- Try to educate in the course of joint labor activity, so you will achieve your goals.
- Immerse yourself in the life of a teenager, imbued with his knowledge.
- Praise and reward for achievements.
- Bring to open communication on any occasion, avoid monosyllabism in both directions.
- Do not rush to formulate quick conclusions.
Sex education
Children grow up imperceptibly, and now, instead of a chubby baby, you are almost an adult in front of you, with whom you need to decide on the sexual education of adolescents. It is unforgivably late to start at this age, even from early childhood it is normal to talk about gender differences and patterns.
But in the era of adolescence, the first ideas about sexuality should receive a logical development. At the same time, it is important not to intimidate the early onset of sexual activity, but to try to emphasize awareness of choice and minimize undesirable negative consequences.
Difficulties in raising a teenager
How to do so to maintain normal relations with your own son or daughter? Track common mistakes too responsible parents in caring for their children - beloved adolescents and avoid them.
- Stop criticizing based on being older; try to be comrades.
- In disputes and discussions, take the position of a confident adult and do not get annoyed by annoying little things.
- Let's make resentment, do not accumulate anger at each other.
- Suggest looking for a way out together.
Raising a teenager’s personality is a difficult task, but the result in the form of good and open relations on both sides is the best reward for her.
