“Morality does not teach how to become happy, but how to become worthy of happiness.”
―Immanuel Kant
I wonder if every woman can say that she is happy? When we are asked a similar question, we instantly answer - of course, I am happy, because I have everything - a caring husband, children, my favorite job.
Is that about you? Then you are on the right track. But the most important thing is not to convince yourself of this, but really feel that way.
Positive thinking is the first step to victory. But some women tend to succumb to the opinions of others, thinking that happiness should be like they write in books or as shown on TV. Such women get depressed ... And then, having suffered enough, they also oppress their loved ones.
How to learn to be happy every day
Day by day, the minutes of our lives expire, a woman strives to be in time everywhere, to be and to remain, healthy, beautiful, to be held as a mother, to be loved and, of course, to make a career. In the bustle of these days, we sometimes forget to just look up and see what a beautiful blue sky and how beautiful the birds are singing.
You need to stop and look around and find the beauty in the details, because there is no “yesterday” and “tomorrow”, but there is only "Here and now". Think about what may never come tomorrow. What would you do today? Maybe you should live to the fullest, breathe deeply, do what you have long dreamed of and say “I love” to everyone you love.
But do not forget that the advice to live every day, as the last time, does not mean that it is worth drinking, drinking and doing stupid things. Try to enjoy every moment! This is not easy to learn, but if you start now, you will soon learn to be happy regardless of circumstances and people.
14 golden rules of happiness:
- When you wake up, first smile at yourself and the sun (smile at your relatives, friends, passers-by) ...
- Stop complaining about life, compare yourself with others, think negatively. Learn to enjoy the little things without taking failure to heart.
- Find your hobby.
- Learn how to think negatively and “cut off” all thoughts of bad.
- Enjoy the meal (during the meal, think about food, its smell, taste, refuse to watch TV).
- Take a walk in the fresh air, enjoying nature.
- Watch life-affirming films, listen to pleasant music (audio, song or video does not matter), choose what pleases and warms the soul, even if it is a melodrama or thriller, a comedy series or a historical film ...
- Forgive offenders and let go of the past, leave only good in the present. Learning to forgive is easy first you need to forgive yourself, because we are people, it’s our nature to make mistakes. Remember how in the movie "Eat, Pray, Love"? Send a ray of light to your dear person, so you will give a piece of yourself, starting a new life full of happiness.
- Read books or essays on psychology (there are plenty of them). Here, for example, Dale Carnegie and his “Textbook of Life”, Louise Hay “Everything a Woman Wants,” Sister Stephanie “How to Name a Child to Be Happy” ..., Mrinal Kumar Gupta “How to Be Happy Always,” in each of the books there is a moral.
find various trainings and affirmations (on the Internet they are online and completely free). - Do good to others free of charge.
- Take time for yourself (thinking about the meaning of life, plans for the summer, etc.).
- Always in all situations put “love” first.
- Dream.
- Thank you for all that you have now.
Joy in the family
Every woman should remember that there is nothing more precious than a family. It is she who is the foundation of happiness. And how to be happy in the family will tell you the heart.
There are two ways out:
- You understand that you do not love your husband, clearly realizing that he is not your person and you are unhappy with him - leave.
- Accept your spouse as he is, not wanting to change "for yourself."
The recipe is simple.
Further, it is worth understanding that it is very important to become a lover in a family, a loving wife and a good mother all rolled into one. Dr. Torsunov in his lectures on Ayurveda - the science of life, reveals principles that help family people to establish relationships, diet, and get rid of bad habits. For example, lecturing can help quit smoking or get rid of alcohol cravings if a husband or wife drinks.
In a relationship with a man
The main rules of a strong and long relationship:
- become a friend to him
- take care of yourself
- learn how to cook
- “Don't take out the brain”
- surprise him in bed
- leave him time for personal space (hiking in a sports bar, beer with friends)
- say "i love you"
- don't try to change it
- be yourself
Such simple, but at the same time complex rules will help you not to lose your man.
If you are going to get married, think about whether communication with your beloved brings you joy. Maybe you are just jealous of the other married couples, or just tired of parental care? Then do not rush to marriage.
Psychologists advise downloading the book "How to Become Loved and Desired." Her modern writer Oksana Duplyakina wrote. The author gives advice to all women. With her books, she teaches women to be more confident in themselves, to recognize their chosen one or husband on the other hand, to establish relations with him .... And here is what Carnegie’s “Textbook of Life” tells us about the relationship between a husband and wife:
• Do not criticize or find fault with your husband;
• jealousy of nothing, do not pursue him for any reason;
• show each other signs of attention, know how to listen to the interlocutor;
• Be careful, that is, inform your husband in advance about your or general plans;
• read a good book about sex (spouses can get to know each other better).
But what about a man - does he have to do something? Of course it should.
Read the poems of A. Pushkin “Onegin's Letter to Tatyana”, the heroes of this work are happy or may be depressed by their feelings ... think about who you are for your man, who you are next to him?
Typically, the causes of divorces or quarrels in relationships are a lack of money, dissatisfaction in sexual relations, or divergence of interests.
Marrying is a real art requiring learning and new practices. The book of Rimma Home, “Magical Female Gadgets,” is specifically for women. She will tell you that you are a valuable prize, a godsend for a man, they will hunt you as prey. Decide on a “magical experiment” with Rimma. The writer has rich experience in communicating with the opposite sex, passes it on to other women, advises how to keep her beloved, while not straining too much, how to raise her self-esteem. You can learn more about this book by reading the reviews and reviews of readers.
Alone
What to do if a woman is alone?
Accept this fact as a new stage in life and enjoy solitude. You do not need to cook someone in the morning and wash dirty socks, you live for yourself and you can do what you want. Proliferate this period and you will not notice how the only one with whom you want to wash your socks and cook breakfast appears in your life.
Understand that successful and happy people attract the same in themselves.If you grieve and suffer, you will attract the same loser.
(For all those who want to change everything in their lives once and for all, we recommend Vitaliy Gibert's book Modeling the Future).
After reading the text on Tibetan medicine of a Tibetan doctor, you will understand that women do not have time to develop in the modern world, that is, their physical condition - the physical one - does not keep up with the spiritual. It used to be wrong, women gave birth to 5-10 children each, but they did not do additional things, they got tired much less. So, you are in the period when a woman is cleansing the body (menstruating), you need to cleanse yourself spiritually, do meditation, for example, or do something useful, simple, you can’t get nervous these days, splashing out your energy, you need let only good feelings into your soul. According to this theory, women are divided into 3 types: wind (lung), bile (trip), mucus (badkan). Not very nice names, but it is worth exploring these types of female energy, at least for general development. Moreover, each type has its own character, its own diet, which helps to cope with PMS, as a result, increase its vitality. It seems to be simple recommendations that will help a woman survive the difficulties, establish contact with herself and other people.
Tell me in front of the mirror - I am strong, I am a person worthy of respect and love, I value myself and love myself for who I am! Despite the loneliness, as you see, I am alive, and everything will be fine with me.
Even if it so happens that you live without a husband, or he betrayed you, know how to leave in English, because life is in full swing, thank God that you have relatives, friends, possibly children, parents. Every day try to visit them, giving them love to everyone, you too will become happier! If anguish has been tortured, you can have a pet, it will definitely become a source of positive emotions for you.
Love and be loved!
