What if you are a modern and fairly young grandmother? Many will say that since you raised children, you can live for yourself. But in fact, here lies a couple of pitfalls.
Children, too, are still young and inexperienced; they themselves cannot cope with the child. And tell them all, and all help, and sit with the child, in general, not a moment of peace.
However there are situations when a grandmother should intervene in raising a child on her ownOtherwise, it can threaten serious negative consequences for the baby.
What should I look for and what to worry about?
- The kid doesn't cry or cries a lot
Not the fact that this is a problem, but remember the behavior of your children at the same age. Or what your mothers talked about. If it is hereditary, then all is well.
You can start to worry if he does not show positive emotions (smile, laughter).
Children at an early age are characterized by vivid emotional reactions. For older children, this rule is not relevant.
- Everything is forbidden to the child
Parenting in a certain framework is not bad. The problem is when all the upbringing of the child is in complete prohibitions.
Permissiveness is, of course, bad, but continuous restrictions will not serve as a good example for a baby.
Childhood should not resemble a strict regime prison. Let the child play, play pranks, have fun, be interested in the world around him and be friends with other children. If this does not happen, then it is likely that in the future he will have serious problems in society.
- Parents choose everything for the child
The best way to grow a person who is not fit for life is to deprive him of any choice. Parents simply decide any little thing for the baby. How to understand that this happens to the grandson?
1. The child does not know how to answer any questions;
2. He cannot independently decide what to wear or what to eat;
3. The kid asks permission for any step or action.
The problem of lack of choice in modern realities is very common. It is against the backdrop of this lack of independence that people who are notorious and unprepared for normal life grow up.
- The child does not want to leave her grandmother
This may be due to the baby’s deep emotional affection for grandmother. However, there may be another reason. Here you should carefully ask the baby about what is happening in the family.
Maybe the parents swear and it scares the child, or they don’t pay enough attention to him in the family. All this can adversely affect the psyche of the baby and his self-awareness and self-esteem.
And how can you determine that something is wrong in the family? What are some of the signs that a child has problems? Is it worth interfering in children's relationships for the good of the child?
